Just a Bit of Advice: Ask Meg


Another cheesy blog for you all!

Everyone needs some advice once in a while or just someone to talk to. A lot of the time there is an unanswered question in the back of your mind. You may not necessarily want to open up to the people around you just in case you don’t like what they have to say about the situation or you feel like you will get judged. This is where my blog comes in. In my group of friends I feel I am quite good at giving advice and quite a few people come to me if they have a problem or want to talk so I thought every month or so I'm going to do an ask Megan series on here. I will be answering any questions you want to ask or any situations you wish to get advice on. I wont be putting peoples names under the questions so it is all anonymous so feel free to ask me on any of my social media links or ask me in person anything you wish for me to talk about.


 “How do I get over someone?”

This question may not necessarily just help people who have come out of a relationship. You can still really like someone but feel like it might not be the right choice for them to be in your life any more or if they are a good friend and you don’t want to ruin your friendship so feel like you need to separate yourself from them and to “get over them”. First off think to yourself why aren't they in your life anyone? Have you both drifted apart but still have strong feelings for them. Or did they do something to upset you or did you do something to upset them. One effective thing to do is get a peace of paper and on one half of the paper write down all the pros about that person, then on the other side write down all their cons and after see which list is bigger. Then start to think about all the bad memories you have ever had because you don’t want to sit and dwell on the good memories even though it might be hard. Another thing to do is just keep yourself busy. This could be from going out with a big group of friends or to a party or go for a long weekend away. Just try not to sit at home crying over all the chick flick and romantic films. Trust me it doesn't help anything!


“How do you maintain a friendship with a boy when you really like him?”

I know a few people who have been in this situation and it is a hard one to be in. First thing to do is say to yourself if they are such a good friend of yours then do you want to jeopardise that by pouring your heart out to him. I'm not saying you have to suffer in silence but if you feel like the only feelings he has towards you are friendly ones then you don’t want to make it awkward by saying you like him and not getting anything in return. Maybe you could bring into convocation about how close you are or how close you have become over the past few months and then gradually ask if he likes anyone at the moment and see where It takes you. You could also ask one of his boy mates if he likes anyone at the moment because “one of your girl friends wanted to know”. However if you don’t want it to go any further than a friendship and are thinking it is just a crush then think to yourself could you honestly see yourself with this person or are you so close that it is more of a brotherly sisterly type of thing you have going on.


“Why am I nice to everyone but I never get it in return?”

I've been told before that I was “too nice for my own good” but when I got home that night it made me think is there such thing as being too nice? I don’t think there is. Yes you can taken advantage of, for example if people use you to do things for them like per pressure and even though you didn't want to do it you did anyway because you didn't want to come across rude or boring. But when it comes to being genuinely “too nice” I don’t think there is anything wrong with being overly nice to someone. The thing is does everyone necessarily deserve you. If they aren't nice to you I don’t mean you have to be horrible to them just take into consideration how they treat you and if they have ever done or said anything nice to you.


“If your old best friends from school don’t bother speaking to you any more should you bother with them?”

Changing school or going from school to college is a big thing for everyone especially when you might not have your best friends with you. There are some people you will be friends with for the rest of your life and some people you think you will be friends with for the rest of your life. The difficult thing is spotting which friends you think will stay by you even if you stop going to the same college. If they stop bothering with you after the change around then you should think do you want to work hard and make annual meet ups with your old best friends or if they don’t bother with you why should you bother with them. Just think at the end of the day throughout your life you are going to become friends with load of other people and might find a friend that will make you forget about the old group of friends you had when you were younger. You shouldn't blank your old friends out though. You should at least try and arrange a meet up with them once every month at least and see if they stick with it. If they do then that’s great and if they don’t then you know that they are not your real friends. Keep in mind that going through a change such as moving college might make it difficult for you to meet up all the time because when in school you were used to seeing each other practically everyday, however now you have grown older it might be difficult for them to get to you or perhaps they might have a job that also keeps them busy or even your timetables might not match up. Just don’t take it to personally! 


“I'm in a relationship with someone I love but I can’t stop thinking about my ex”

I had to think about this question carefully because it is such a horrible situation to be in and I know a few people who have had this problem and someone who is very close to me has this often when trying to move on to a different relationship. I feel that yes it is tough when coming out of a relationship even if it didn't last that long you still have had that strong connection with someone. However when starting a new relationship it is important that you try to move on from your previous one. Again you could do this by making the pro and con list I talked about in a previous question. I feel you can’t be in love with more than one person at the same time. This is because if you love your current partner then you shouldn't have feeling for anyone else. If you still have feelings for them then you cant love the person you’re in a relationship with now as much as you think you do. Other wise why would you still love someone else. Now I know some of you might be thinking well no because you can still have feeling for someone else. And I agree 100% with that you may still have feelings for an ex because of the time and memories you have shared but if you find yourself still “in love with them” then you have to honestly say to yourself how can I be in a relationship when I still love my ex. Keep into consideration that this could just be old raw feelings that you have. You may feel that you finding it hard to move on to someone else when your still hooked to your ex. BUT make sure you don’t use someone just to try and help you get over an ex.



Thank you to everyone who sent me their questions and situations. I really enjoyed doing a blog that really connects to you and even though you might not have sent anything in I hope some of the questions help you whether it’s now or further on in life. I know that some people might be thinking that I am talking rubbish or that I don’t know what I'm talking about, however I am just trying to answer everyone’s questions from my perspective. I understand if this advice might not help you but if that is the case then feel free to ask me any questions or situations that you are in and I will defiantly do another ask Meg blog. If I get a good response from this then I will turn it in to a monthly series.

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